In our time where social media is big part of our daily life, people tend to reveal their daily stories, personal life, even their family, friends, location, restaurants, travel and the list can go on. Social media is a double sword. It can be used for good or bad cause. Bottom line, a little education can get you far in your life if social media is used carefully.
What are the differences between Jealousy and envy? In this blog I will go deep into explaining most differences and impact on our society. I will analyze the correlation in between those two bad habits that people tend to do without previous thoughts.
What is Jealousy?
Jealousy is when someone is wishing to have what others own at that moment. Acting jealous mainly can be very abroad such as between friends, family, strangers, superstars, singers, and actors, anyone you see on social media or TV. It could be beauty, status, position, or something tangible like a car, house, etc. You can be driving a car that some of your friends will comment and say “nice car, man I wish I had that car.” It is nothing bad with being honest when it comes to close friends. Another scenario is when a girl is actually staring at another girl because her boyfriend is looking. That is another type of jealousy which most of the time causes arguments between couples. Do you see the differences between these thoughts that goes in the mind of human being? It could be vice versa. Let us not go deep into couple problems, we are focusing on jealousy here. Another scenario which most moms notice that when big brother playing with little brother at younger age get into arguments and end up fighting. Big brother does not want his little brother to play with his favorite toy. Mom comes in the middle and most likely little brother gets what he wants. Funny HA! Most of us went through and you know exactly how it ends up. Little brother wins, then jealousy hits, and big brother thinks his mom loves little brother more. Honest jealousy is another thing. You can tell someone that you are jealous because they are traveling to your favorite place that you cannot afford at the moment. But if you start wishing that person to have the worst experience and hopefully something comes up so they won’t travel, it becomes envy and this is what will discuss next. Notice that there is a thin line between Envy and Jealousy.
What is Envy?
Envy is when you wish harm to someone because either you don’t have what they have, or you own it but you don’t want others to obtain it. Mainly this horrible act is between same circle of family, friends, neighbors, or people we just met. A friend of yours pulls in with a nice car and your comment will be “man!!! How can he afford this expensive car?” Why would anyone want to ask this question? It could be because he knows something is not right about that person, or because he doesn’t want that person to drive a nicer car than him. All this is not important. When you see your friend is driving a nice car, before you make that comment above, many thoughts come in your head which are: How come I don’t have money to buy that car? How do I make more money to afford better car? Why is he making more money than me? I will let that sink in your head for little. Another scenario is when you are in college and one of your friends decided to be a doctor and you choose different path. Ten years down the road you see your doctor friend is making it, nice house, car, money, and beautiful chic to be his wife. Now, here is the tricky part, a family member will point out that your friend is living the life and you just barely making it; In a way calling you a loser. This is where it triggers enviness and you start asking all the negative questions. Going back to the car scenario, if you are not happy with what car you drive, maybe you should do something about it. A better approach will be “congratulations on your new car, I wish you a better one on your next one and maybe one day when I get a nice car like yours, we can go racing.” How hard is that? This will make a huge difference and will change your mindset of seeing things from a different perspective. You will have the motivation to look for better job that will allow you to afford nicer car.
Do Not Compare yourself or let anyone compare you with others
Can you envy or be jealous of Bill Gates on his success? Of course NOT!! Reason is that there is a big gap between a normal person and Bill. There are many steps to become as he is today. We tend to be jealous from people that are same level. For instance, a doctor can be jealous from another doctor because he is more successful. When a doctor is envy of another doctor is because he doesn’t want him to be a doctor in the beginning, and if he is more successful, that person wishes him harm and wants that taken away from him.
Envy and jealousy are bad habits, a soul destroyer and nobody wins at the end. This bad trait can be acquired from the way we were raised by family, or anyone that we surround ourselves with. Therefore, pay attention parents because envy is not a good way of building personalities by comparing your children to others. Some people were born rich, some born poor. Do not say loser, but instead say unfortunate. You can train your kids to challenge themselves to do better in life overall. It is no one’s fault to be born they are. I want to focus on the parents as a general and normal way of acquiring good manners. Please teach your kids to be happy with what they have. If they want more, they need to work hard for it. Teach them how to help and be happy for others. Kindness and positive energy will create a positive return energy.
Social media is very tricky. People have access to view their friends and family business. They see all these people with nice cars, travels, expensive cloth etc. It takes a strong and smart person to take control of these thoughts. People are training their brains to think negatively on a daily basis. What do you think this will lead to? This will lead to a shallow minded society with negative thinking, full of envy and jealousy that will create a social disaster. I hope that people start thinking about being happy with things that they have, because there are people out there that have 10% of what we have. Parents play a huge role in creating future generations. I suggest you start acting now before it is too late.
A doctor will envy another doctor, a singer will envy another singer, a homeless will envy another homeless, and if you chose to do the same, you are definitely on right path of destroying your brain slowly. If you want to ne jealous, control it, be truthful in order to be motivated and do good for yourself.
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